There are two types of students:
Moving towards students – who want to get the top grades, look good, win a medal, make more money.
Moving away from students – who don’t want to fail, look fat, don’t want to lose a game and don’t want to lose the money they have.
Which one are you?
The reason I ask is because what works to MOTIVATE a MOVING TOWARDS student won’t work for a MOVING AWAY FROM student.
I don’t know you, but ask yourself: Are you focused more on NOT flunking an exam than acing it?
This is important to know because the ONLY thing that motivates a MOVING AWAY FROM student is FEAR OF LOSS, FAILING a course or exam.
They only pick up their books when they know they have to otherwise they will fail. They don’t exercise until their pants are too tight… They NEVER invest their money – they let it sit there in a bank account SAFE, not earning much interest.
Unfortunately, these students are rarely successful in the general sense of the word.
They can have a very “good” life, but the ultimate rewards escape them because they are not willing to do what it takes, they lack the HUNGER and DRIVE.
Fear overtakes them – all the time.
Reduction of RISK is different than achieving an ACCOMPLISHMENT.
Without the FEAR OF LOSS, there is no hunger, motivation.
With school, these students must FEAR that their lives will be DRAMATICALLY different without good grades or the right degree. Unfortunately they usually do the degree for the wrong reason (fear instead of desire) but if it’s the right degree, then it is still a good thing to get.
Getting a generic bachelor’s degree is no longer worth anything these days. It’s a necessity, but no longer a worthwhile investment – just like a high school diploma is worthless – UNLESS you don’t have one. It has become a necessity, but there is a HUGE cost to getting one if it’s not a valuable degree.
Kids today are mostly spoiled. They get driven to and from school, have iPhones, iPads, all the sports equipment they need, etc.. The ONLY problem with all that is they have NO HUNGER, NO DESIRE.
That being said, it’s a hard thing for young students to deal with. The real question is:
Are you happy to FOLLOW or
will you TAKE THE LEAD in your own life?
That is the question.
If you are female, once you read the book Lean In, you’ll have a better appreciation for the forces at play – not that you don’t already know this, it’s just a great way of seeing the situation.
All I know is that anyone, anytime can alter their destiny – IF THEY WANT IT ENOUGH.
Easier said than done, which is why most (80%) of the population don’t do it.
It is VERY COMPLEX and each person has his/her own story / baggage / history to deal with.
- A LOT of drive, determination and discipline.
- A LOT of heart, desire and passion.
- A LOT of trials, testing and realignment.
- A LOT of self-belief, confidence and courage.
- A LOT of patience, understanding and acceptance.
- A LOT of many things most people lack.
They only lack them because they haven’t practiced these skills, abilities and “values”.
The more courageous you are, the more courageous you become.